JUST HAD THE MOST ANNOYING CONVERSATION WITH MY DAD!
Apparently my grandmother asked him what being ‘gay’ means. And his response was, ’she’s just good friends with this girl!’. Which is annoying because I’m sure my grandmother knows what GAY means! She’s old, not stupid!
Then he told me ‘i’m starting to understand it more, but i would appreciate if you just didn’t tell her what it was when you call her!’…
I’ve NEVER told THAT grandmother that I was gay OR that I had a girlfriend (I just avoided it…But if it came up, YES I would tell her!)
So then (because my father is religious) I threw back, ‘I’m 27 and I am not going to hide who I am at this point. If that ruins my relationship with her, it’s her loss not mine! I’m too strong to let people manipulate me and make me feel bad about the way that I am! If you tell me to lie to her that makes me a liar, and liars go to hell dad!’ then he hung up….
(gay people go to ‘hell’ too, but if ‘god’ is gonna be such a dick about who I love (cos ‘apparently’ ‘he’ created me AND made me this way)……. If ‘he’ looks down on the way ‘he’ made me, than he can go fuck himself.
People can be so naive. Love is love.
- Rubie - January 23, 2010 at 12:55 pmawe Keep your head up! dont let that convo get you down, just stick to what you belive parents can be tools sometimes. You just be you and let them worry about them being them b/c they are the ones with the problems not you!
- Kyla - January 23, 2010 at 1:02 pmFor 8 years I devoutly followed the born-again faith.
It’s to my understanding that unconditional love is love without condition, agenda, & manipulation. But I think many people who have the need to spread the word of god tend to manipulate people in to accepting god out of their own fears. Which, personally, I don’t believe manipulating people is okay.
Anyway, Jordin, you should never have to defend yourself. You are a sacred being in your own, with or without anyone else. You love because you love, not because you need someone to accept you.
- P - January 23, 2010 at 1:06 pmThat pictures is…there are no words.
Sorry ’bout your dad:/
- Alisia - January 23, 2010 at 2:19 pmLove you Jordin. Good for you for standing up for yourself!
- Jen - January 25, 2010 at 10:42 amI feel like I’ve got a lot to say! (I’ve already commented on like..two other of your blogs today!)
I am a spiritual Christian–I don’t say religious because I hate that term. I don’t follow special codes or rules established by a church…in fact, I’m completely non-denominational. I believe that God loves everybody unconditionally, whether you’re gay or not, transgendered, interracial, an axe murder, a moron, or whatever…I, as a Christian, HATE it when the Bible-thumpers go around making us look bad. They may be Christians in the sense that they believe in the faith, but they are religious Christians, and they aren’t any better than the people they are judging if they try to manipulate and break you. [Judge not lest ye be judged]. I’m sorry that your dad gave you a hard time. It’s ignorance, which is sad, but just think about it this way, you’re enlightened and stronger now. Love is the best thing in the world. Who cares how you found it and with whom? You found it, now do your best to keep it–that’s more important
- Emmy - February 11, 2010 at 2:55 am